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Choices create our future

Have you ever really thought about it, about how we literally create our future?

A CHOICE that YOU make now, at this moment, can change your future!


If you think that is not true, then you need to take a closer look at how life really happens.


You are NEVER forced to do something, sure you can say my partner made me do it or my mother/father made me, or my friends made me but DID THEY, REALLY? Did they hold a gun to your head, did they chain you to that job, did they threaten to kill your dog or cat if you didn’t do as they said? You have a mind of your own and a future of your choosing, so why would you let someone else choose your future?


You CHOOSE to listen to instructions, advice, your parents, your friends, your enemies, etc...


You CHOOSE to hit the snooze button.


You CHOOSE to be angry or sad...


You CHOOSE to succeed or not succeed.


You CHOOSE to make a certain amount of money.


You CHOOSE to be successful, to do whatever it takes to get what you want.


You CHOOSE to be happy.


Think about it, every decision we make in our daily lives will create who we are and what we are doing in the future. We are all living in a multi-dimensional reality where each decision could move our future lives in a different direction. Just like the children’s books of old where the reader has a choice when the reader has made the choice they are taken to a different page in the book, and so on and so on. Each time the child reads the book, his choices create a different story. That is how our lives work.


If you need another example, consider this, you are single, you are looking for a lasting relationship with a partner that has the same interests and enjoys the same things you do, but every relationship you go into ends in a bad breakup. A few months after your most recent breakup, your friends ask you to go to dinner with them and some other friends. Normally you would say yes, but this evening you are feeling depressed and you turn them down (your first choice). That night you were meant to meet your life partner, he was there with your friends as an invited guest. He was perfect for you, your friends call you from dinner and invite you to meet them for drinks at the local brewery and tell you about this guy, they tell you he is perfect for you. Again, you turn them down (second choice) and decide it would be more fun to sit alone at home and watch TV.


These choices you made have now sent your search for a partner back months, maybe years. If you would have just chosen to go to dinner with your friends, you would have met your life partner. Instead, you made the choice twice to stay home and those choices will take your life in a totally different direction. One where you will end up in one bad relationship after another. This does not mean that you will not get a second chance, but it may take you longer and you may have to go through much heartache first.


This is just one very basic example, but think about it, from the moment we wake up till the moment we fall asleep, we are in charge of how our lives turn out. Our choices are also based on our emotions as well, if we are in a good mood then we end up making better choices and follow our instincts because we know things will all work out. But, if we let things bother us if we are not in a good mood, we are not going to be in the right frame of mind to make good decisions.


Another example, you are working in a dead-end nine-to-five job with little room for advancement and doing something you really don’t like doing, but it is a job and pays the bills. You always wanted to work in advertising, you love fashion and graduated with a degree in fashion marketing and design. When you got out of college you had a hard time finding a job in the field of advertising and fashion design, you were living off your savings while desperately looking for a good job in New York City. Your funds finally ran out, you had 3 more interviews set up for the following month, two of which were 2nd and 3rd interviews, but you didn’t have enough money for rent and bills for another month. You had three options,


1. Go say with your friend and her 2 roommates, sleep on the sofa and continue to interview;


2. Borrow the money from your parents for one month and again continue looking; or


3. Pack it all up and move back home and try and get a job closer to home (far away from the City).


You were depressed, and while you really felt that if you stayed you could find a job, but you made the choice to give up and move back home. YOUR CHOICE caused you to lose a great job, one that you would have thrived in and done very well. Can you now see how these choices changed your future? If you had stayed in the city, you would have been hired at a large marketing firm and done very well for yourself, but because you bailed and went home, you are now working a dead-end nine-to-five job. Does this mean that your life is over NO WAY, you can make a conscious decision right now to bush up on your marketing skills, meet with a career counselor, brush up your resume and push yourself to go out there and find a better job, one that you will enjoy getting up for every day, YOUR CHOICE.


Even small choices have meaningful consequences. When you get up in the morning, you have the choice of how you are going to start your day. Are you going to be upbeat and looking forward to your day, maybe even when you just want to stay in bed and call in sick, or are you going to “cease the day”? When you make the choice to start your day out with a positive outlook, you will tend to have a good day, sure things may go wrong but you're in a good mood and they do not phase you. I will use this as an example:


You wake up and your first thought is, Damn it’s Monday and the boss is going to be on a rampage this week because he was out of the office all last week. (Right here you are setting the tone for the day, and it is not a good one either) so you make the CHOICE to call in sick and go back to bed so you don’t have to deal with him. That day, your boss called everyone together and advised them that the reason he was out of town was to negotiate on a large project and it was awarded to their company (the one you would have been extremely qualified for and one you would have enjoyed working on). Your boss was looking to give the project to you, but because you were not in the office, the project was given to another team member.


YOUR CHOICE to call in sick just cost you a very nice project and possibly a promotion.

These are just a few examples of how our choices can change our lives, but there really are so many more, from the smallest choice of what we wear to larger ones like what career we choose.


So, what are you going to do, what choices are you going to make, where will your choices now take you in your future?